Romance Blooms with Showers
of Confidence
Men are highly sensitive to signals of doubt because doubt plagues them.
If you continually give off signals of doubt, you will confirm the fear of inadequacy that lurks deep within your husband.
If
a man believes he doesn’t have what it takes to please you, there’s not much
chance he’ll attempt romance.
“A wise woman builds her house, but
a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands” (Proverbs
14:1).
Doubting
your husband and his abilities tears away at a man; conferring confidence
builds him up.
A confident man is grateful to the one who believes in him.
A confident man is grateful to the one who believes in him.
Do you have confidence in
your husband, or do you find yourself regularly second-guessing him?
Do you struggle with doubt when it comes to his abilities?
He needs to be supported by your confidence in him
He needs to be supported by your confidence in him
- at
home
- in the
workplace
- and in
his dream for the future.
At home, I wanted Tom involved with the
discipline of our children but was rarely pleased with his methods. I thought
he was too strict and should be more understanding. Instead of communicating clearly with Tom about my concerns, I undermined his authority by
smoothing things over with the kids behind his back.
My actions conveyed a lack
of confidence in my husband.
I sabotaged our parenting and our marriage.
·
Our kids learned their parents weren’t always on the same team, so if
they worked on the more lenient parent, they might get their way.
·
Tom felt hurt and angry.
Doubting my husband didn’t open any doors to romance!
The
media constantly broadcast fear and doubt concerning the future. Against this
tidal wave of doom and gloom,
it’s
difficult for a man to confidently believe that God has planned a hopeful
future for him.
When
my husband was going through a job transition a couple of years ago, it became
apparent he was struggling with doubt over his ability to succeed in a new
venture. He was really down one day when he commented, “Most men don’t make a job change at fifty.”
I
asked,
“Who says?”
He rewarded me with a smile from ear to ear.
He rewarded me with a smile from ear to ear.
Tom’s words weren’t so
much a statement of fact as they were a question—he was asking me if I believed he could successfully make a job change at
fifty.
A wise wife counteracts the media’s message of fear with a daily dose
of confidence.
Inspiring confidence in your husband is like pouring
water on dry, thirsty ground.
What seeds of potential lie dormant within your husband,
waiting for the showers of your confidence?
What does your husband dream of doing?
Let
your husband know that you believe in him.
If you don’t, who will?
Breathe words of confidence into your husband today and watch as
he stands taller with every word spoken.
That
said, pray about which ones to encourage. If your husband’s dreams take him in
a direction that worries you, consider your concerns.
Are they rooted in selfishness or fear?
Are they rooted in selfishness or fear?
Turn
to God and give Him your worries.
Conferring confidence invites your husband to romance.
Conferring confidence invites your husband to romance.
Could your love-life benefit from showers of confidence?
2 comments:
Great post. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this subject that so many people would probably avoid.
Great marriages take work to maintain.
It is so true... marriage is hard work, and it is sad how many people don't work at it. Have you checked out Beautiful Womanhood? It is a great site. I am doing the study~ The Beautiful Wife for a review right now, and it is AMAZING!:) Thanks for stopping by!
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