Want
a Growing Marriage?
My
husband and I were reading a financial book about how to make your money grow
when one of the principles jumped off the page at me:
What you focus on grows.
Because
it’s such a simple principle, I couldn’t get it out of my mind and began
applying it to all areas of life, especially relationships.
Most
women have the desire to grow a more intimate relationship with their husband
yet few focus their desire
long enough to do anything about it.
Thus, nothing changes.
Thus, nothing changes.
- Ignorance,
- Distractions,
and/or
- hopelessness
are often to blame.
I
should know. Just 19 when I said, “I do”, I was ignorant about how to
grow my marriage. Our pre-marriage counseling consisted of one two-hour
meeting with my pastor and that wasn’t enough to prepare me for the emotional,
spiritual, and verbal abuse my husband doled out on a regular basis.
The abuse produced pain and grief.
I could think of little else than surviving.
I could think of little else than surviving.
Hope for our future crumbled.
Over
time, I began sharing my pain with a few
trusted, godly women.
Venting my pain and hearing their honest feed-back helped me see that the abuse
I was suffering wasn’t my fault.
I
began seeing a Christian counselor who
gave me tools that helped restore me to a place of strength and dignity.
The
best choice I made was to dig into God’s word and
find out what He wanted to say to me about my marriage. In the Bible I
found the following verses which applied to my situation:
·
“…Your godly lives will speak to them [husbands] better than any words.
They will be won over by watching your pure godly behavior.” (I Peter
3:1,2) In place of preaching to my husband, I began entrusting
my difficult situation to God through prayer—listening for His instruction.
·
“Instead, we will hold to the truth in love…” (Ephesians 4:15) I began to exchange
preaching for speaking the truth in love—in as few words as possible.
·
“See that no one pays back
evil for evil, but always try to do good…” (I Thessalonians 5:15) On my new path, I
chose to respond in kindness and enforce healthy boundaries in place of angry
retaliation.
When
I dug into the word, I learned that my husband wasn’t the only one
sinning. My responses to Tom were often
sinful and my response was the only thing I was responsible for.
(What I wanted was to change my husband but I couldn’t find a biblical reference to support my desire and neither will you)!
(What I wanted was to change my husband but I couldn’t find a biblical reference to support my desire and neither will you)!
Focused
on God and His Word, I was able to reverse negative behavioral patterns in
my life which had long plagued me.
When I did what I could do—keeping my focus on God, HE DID WHAT
I COULD NOT!
He healed me and ultimately my marriage—to the praise of His
glorious grace!
What you focus on grows.
Are you focused on growing your marriage?
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